When someone does you wrong in life, do you keep holding onto it or try to forgive. But what is forgiveness? Is forgiveness an exercise which benefits are for the other person or yourself? Let’s reflect on these.
Forgiveness, in reality, isn’t “really” about someone else’s harmful behaviour but how you keep relating to it. It’s a reflection of your own relationship with such a past experience.
Forgiveness is not forgetting
Forgiveness isn’t forgetting; it’s an exercise of summing up your resources and going into that past event and finding the bravery to heal, by letting go of the negative feelings attached to that experience.
And this is quite important as unbecomingly; we seem to have a tendency to hold onto our negative experiences more than to our positive ones. And with time we might end up going around carrying with us a baggage full of negativity.
Making our own peace
Let’s be realistic. At first forgiveness won’t come easy, but after some time you will start to realise that truly forgiveness is not an exercise for another person it’s primarily an exercise for oneself – A practice of compassionate self-healing and a way of transcending our hurts and pains so you can keep moving forward in life. Forgiveness is about making our own peace in life. As Jack Kornfield says:
It is not enough to know that love and forgiveness are possible. We have to find ways to bring them to life.Jack Kornfield (2008) – Art of Forgiveness Loving-kindness and Peace
This reflection came to me while practising loving-kindness meditation
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Kornfield, J. (2008). The Art of Forgiveness, Lovingkindness, and Peace. New York, NY: Random House USA Inc.